When we meet anyone, new friends or colleague, acquaintance or stranger, relatives or known loved ones , the first thing everyone do is to judge them. I don't know with what authority or right, but i have seen people having this atrocious habit of judging others. A person's perspective is of his own and not of the world, but ever since everyone believe he can set standards and judge anything or anyone he keep on setting an image in his mind that he believe is a reality even if the reality is far beyond what that person can expect it to be. A rose have thorns yet it is the most beautiful flower but no one have the authority to say it doesn't look beautiful because judging a rose by its thorns would be foolishness. Exactly same thing goes with people, you cannot expect each one to be perfect, in my terms perfection is an incomplete word.
Every person is unique, not only by his face but also by his thoughts, when it comes to judging someone, you should not only see a person appearance but also his mindset or either just don't have a habit of judging anyone. I've seen people who judge others with a mindset of differentiating them into religion, caste, creed, race, color or any other illogical term.
If a man judge a girl by her character then he should also judge himself with the same standards. If a girl is outspoken she should not be tagged to be a characterless woman, she might be confident enough to be a business tycoon. An unmarried pregnant women is tagged as a slut, but maybe the truth is she was being raped by a voracious man.
A guy who doesn't speak much, might not be a less confident person but a deep thinker. An ordinary looking man might not be good in looks but good in every other thing he does.
A book cannot be judged by its cover is an old adage but its so true. A smiling face might not show the sadness it holds inside. A strict teacher might be gracious in donations, an angry man might be a loving dad. A person having billions of dollars might not be the happiest person on this earth.
Your judgement shows something about you, not about the person whom you are judging. Bible says 1“Do not judge, or you too will be judged. 2 For in the same way you judge others, you will be judged, and with the measure you use, it will be measured to you. Mathew 7:1-2
Sometimes sudden decisions cannot judge the reality of a tear falling from an eye.
Upasana Wilson
2nd August, 2011
© Upasana Wilson| 2011|
I read somewhere....
ReplyDeleteIt says smthng lyk this...
"Don't compare your life to others...You have no idea about their sufferings...."
May be 4m paulo Coelho..Not sure though....